Whether you have resolved to lose weight or get out of debt, you may find yourself back in the cycle of waiting for the next new year. So, why do most resolutions fail?
Simply put, a new year won’t make a difference if your mindset is the same. A date won’t make you ready for change, unless you are truly ready to make the change. Yes, the first step is recognizing their is a problem, but that is not enough. You have to count the cost of continuing on your path or changing your course.
A study by researchers at Scranton University found that only 19 percent of individuals keep their resolutions. As you might have discovered yourself, most goals are abandoned by mid-January. Some people may make it to March, but then abandon their goals all together.
The states of change model by researchers James Prochaska and Carlo DiClemente was developed in the 1970s, and was to examine the experience of smokers who quit and those who were not so successful without further treatment. You might not be a smoker, but you have a habit that you need to break. The Stages of Change Model are still useful to you, so where are you in the Stages of Change?
Stages of Change Model
Denial or Ignoring the issue
In this stage, people are not ready to make the change.
Counting the cost and readiness or ability to change
In this phase, people are being more intentional and are beginning to recognize their is a problem.
In this stage, people are making small changes and preparing an action plan.
The third state, people are ready to take the steps necessary to change their behavior.
Action toward accomplishing their goals
People are modifying their behavior and acquiring healthier replacement behaviors.
Maintaining the new behavior
In this stage, people have found success and are working hard to maintain the desired behavior.
Feeling of failure or resignation to a fate
Don’t be so hard on yourself if you lose weight and gain more weight. This is a common occurrence. The key is to reassess, when and where you noticed your relapse. What were your triggers?
Any resolution or behavior will fail when you haven’t counted the cost, made proper preparation and taken certain actions. Failures come when the issues behind the behavior aren’t addressed. Why do I eat unhealthy? Why don’t I exercise when I know it is good for me? Why do I overspend? Usually their is an emotion of trying to satisfy or fill a void. Once you have begin to make a plan with actions steps and a support system, you will be successful.